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3 communication tips for a smoother divorce

On Behalf of | Jun 28, 2022 | Family Law |

Once you decide to get a divorce, there are many issues you must negotiate with your former spouse. Some of these may include how to divide your assets, what your custody plan will look like if you have children, who will keep the house, etc.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that in 2020, 630,505 couples got divorced or annulled their marriages, and many of these couples experienced similar struggles. The following tips can help you work through divorce-related issues and communicate effectively with your ex.

1. Set communication boundaries

Determine exactly when and how you will speak to your former spouse. For example, if you want to limit contact, hold a meeting with your former spouse once a week over the phone or in person.

2. Watch your tone

During the divorce process, you may feel upset, frustrated and angry, and it is easy to let these emotions take over when speaking with your ex. Keep your tone of voice civil when speaking to your former spouse and avoid shouting, sarcasm and insults.

3. Focus on the issues at hand

If you and your spouse diverge into other issues, it can be harder to avoid heated discussions. Focus your efforts on the issues at hand and refocus the conversation if things get off track.

During your divorce, it can be difficult to focus on effective communication. But making a concentrated, ongoing effort can help you effectively negotiate and come to an agreement on issues relating to your divorce faster.